Recently someone mentioned that after all the disappoints they’ve suffered the last several years that they’d given up hope. Done with it. I’ve encountered this often in coaching and friendships and its worth addressing. Hope in my book is not on the high pedestal many place it.
Giving up on hope is I think, actually a good thing. I teach my students not to give in to hope as it is passive, almost always out of the realm of our own efforts, and essentially just wishing. Kind of sets one up for disappointment and is really a kind of psychological lottery. INSTEAD I encourage them to focus on what they can do, and in time foster a active vision, to simply attend to things one day at a time, even if its only their breath, washing the dishes, and cultivating mindfulness. People waste too much of their lives on hoping and trying. There is a better way.